Are you serious? You are going to ignore me? Not even respond to my calls or e-mails? We rehearsed for 6 months and only had 1 gig and you are just going to walk away, no explanation? I thought we were friends. I trusted you. How could you do this to the group, we all worked so hard!
Have you ever sent a text or email similar to that? Or worse...have you received one? Getting upset and going silent is the MOST unprofessional way to handle your problems. Stop being afraid of having grown-up, adult conversations with your fellow performers. Even if it does not work out, have the conversation, communicate the issue. Who cares if you are right or wrong, get over yourself.